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Dear Mr. Sadoff,
I am writing to thank you for the help that your manual "Coming
Together for Life" has been to me. Many of the techniques outlined
in your manual can be put to immediate use and bring about immediate
change. I thank you for this wonderful resource.
As I have read through the manual, I have a feeling that I have
a controlling personality. I also suspect that I am somewhat codepedent.
I am wondering if
you could recommend some good resources that I could use to understand
these topics better and how to overcome them.
I am also interested in any resources you could direct me to in
helping me to understand how my childood could effect
my present personality and
relationships.
Thank you so much.
Mark P.
... The relationship went critical
mass over the summer again, and I made the decision to move out
first of August. We are trying to salvage whatever remains of friendship
so that we don't completely lose each other, but it's hard right
now, because we're both so raw, and there's so much temptation to
fall right back into the same old unresolved fights and behavior
patterns. One way or another, it will seek its level and be fine.
Did just want to say how useful I found the materials in your relationship
program. Despite the way things have turned out, they did help us
very much. I know that I will take the skills and techniques and
resultant insights about myself into my next relationship, which
I suppose ironically will be the beneficiary. Thanks again, and
wish you all the best.
--E. J.
I just wanted to commend
your company for an incredibly fast response to my order. It arrived
today and in perfect condition. It was exactly as advertised. I
only had a moment to skim the manual today but from my brief glimpse
it looks as if it will be very helpful to me in my work with couples.
Thanks
so much and again...GREAT job.
Gale A. Shay, MSW, LSW
Please send me any sample exercises
on Expressing Anger Constructively. I truly am grateful for all
the free material. It is helping ALOT. Joyce
Yes we received it. Thank
you for all your help! your book is amazing!!!!!
Chantal from Canada
Hi Marc,
I just wanted to let you know that we got the Manuals that Friday
afternoon as promised and they have been a tremendous help already!!
My boyfriend is totally committed to taking this course material
seriously, which is a pleasant surprise since that was my main concern
with him. I frequently thank him for his commitment and ability
to use these skills during our arguments. We would be history by
now if it weren't for the communication skills we are learning in
your manual!
I've told my girlfriend about the almost instant positive impact
of this manual on my relationship, and now she has a friend who
wants to know more about the manuals so I'm sending her the URL.
Allison
I've spent hours looking
for and reading information on ANGER & ANGER MANAGEMENT . .
. and have found many helpful resources, but your site is the first
to make me laugh . . . "One reason you're still arguing with
someone is because you're still in the room and available for arguing."
- Marc Sadoff, MSW, BCD. . . . . and after trying to 'Manage' for
soooo long - a laugh felt wonderful! Thanks. I'm looking forward
to learning more.
Glinda
Hi Marc,
We enjoyed your couples workshop this past weekend. We believe we
learned quite a bit and have been implementing it into our daily
routine. I find it so far to be very effective. We used to bicker
about small things everyday before the class, and now since we've
been following the steps and giving the other the "remote control",
we take care of the bicker in less than 5 minutes (as before it
would be hours). We will continue to practice the skills we've learned
because we truly believe it helps our relationship grow stronger.
Please send us the DVD so we can practice more. Thank you for everthing!
Happy Holidays,
Linda H
Marc,
You may consider this an anonymous testimonial.
We came to your seminar with many difficulties and near violent
anger. Definitely emotionally violent.
After taking your
course we learned and practice many of the techniques and principles
you taught in the seminar we attended last year. It not only saved
our relationship but has improved our individual lives.
For months and
months we had all your rules taped to our walls (with 3M temporary
double sided removable pad tabs) in the bathroom above the sinks,
on the fridge and in my office and in the utility room. They kept
reminding us of the proper ways to handle conflict and it has curtailed
the damaging effects of emotional escalation that really ruined
any chance to a loving peaceful life.
Although we both are far from where we'd like
to be, we are thousands of miles ahead of the painful place we were
before attending your course.
Spending the time
with you and other couples helped us see that we were not alone
and encouraged us to move through this awful phase of our relationship
to a happier more satisfying relationship. We were both motivated
to learn and sincere when we came.
We participated genuinely and we received great
rewards then and now. I believe that we have integrated your techniques
into our lives to our benefit.
Thank God for your life's work and course that
has helped us grow and create a relationship that is so much more
satisfying and pleasant.
We appreciate your part in our lives.
We were married September 27th 2002!
Bill & Lori
I came to your
class a year ago (Patty F.). With your seminar last year, it was
so amazingly helpful and eye opening, that I highly recommend your
workshop. We left your workshop and had the best marriage ever for
about a month.
We fell a bit,
headed into some major issues, and using the things we learned in
your seminar, we popped out the end of a tunnel of turbulence -
that we'd been in since before we got married (since late 2003)
- by early this year. We are in a whole different relationship now.
Thank you, thank you so much for that! Such a good place, I took
his name (that's why my e-mail now says J____.)
Anyways... not
the point! I just signed up my brother and his wife for your July
workshop. I've been working on them for awhile and finally got forceful
- Good? Bad? I'm sure you know! ;-) His name is Rick and her name
is C___.
Thanks again!
Looking forward to more miracle working! ;-) She's a good one and
I'd like to keep her in the family! She's also got a son (stepson
to my bro) which makes splitting that much harder. They're married
about 3 years now. Best,
Patty
Marc,
Thank you for a very enjoyable and productive
weekend. We have already used some of the techniques, and are sure
we will use them all, many times...
It felt strange the way we left... had a great connection with you
over the weekend, and we both felt as if we had just left a friend.
We look forward to seeing the new site, and will recommend others
to you and your materials.
Thanks again for all you did for us.
A & G
Your workbook is excellent. Absolutely amazing. My husband ordered
a pair of them when I told him that I wouldn't stay with him any
longer if he didn't take some sort of action to learn to be accountable
for his behavior. So he ordered the books (he'd already decided
to quit seeing our therapist because she was on "my side."
Anyway, the stuff in the book is great. Though he refused to look
at it, but then yesterday when I told him that I really, truly
wanted to leave, he started looking
at it, and apparently doing the exercises.
Here's my question... how can any of these techniques
or exercises work in a relationship where there is verbal and/or
emotional abuse? I've suggested to him that we go to your seminar,
but he says, "I can't sit in a room where someone pretends
to know more than I do about something."
Teri M.
(This
was an email forwarded to us that was a seminar attendee writing
to her friend.)
Dear Jill,
Great to hear
back from you. Here's the website for the marriage enrichment workshop
that Bob and I took. It's www.RealHope.com . If J___ isn't willing
to give up one day of his life to enhance your marriage, I would
have grave concern about whether this would help you...or even if
it sounds like he wants your marriage to work.
As the old saying
goes, "it takes 2 to tango." I'm not even sure that the
therapist would accept you into the workshop, without your husband...since
there will be contracts you need to make with one another during
the day. I highly recommend the workshop, however, and hope you
will be able to benefit from it, as Bob and I are. Best of luck
to you, J__ and the baby. Keep me posted on how things are going.
By the way, the
therapist who runs the program, Marc Sadoff, would be happy to address
your questions, I'm sure. You'll find his phone and email address
on the website. Take care!
Warmly,
Karen
After reading through
the articles posted on the web, i must say that i can't agree more
with your analysis on why arguments occur between couples. I myself,
have been squabbling/quarrelling with my spouse for the past 1 year
and have felt helpless many times about the futility of our talks.
I must say that your articles really contributed to some good insights.
I would really appreciate if you can email me the
free sample worksheets. Thank and God bless!
Sincerely,
lynn
I truly appreciate
the good service.. Thank you..
Shelley G.
Marc,
A friend of mine just went to your session last
night and was totally blown away! He doesn't believe in therapy
AT ALL so to hear him speak about it and rave about the session
and what he got out of it was inspirational.
Vladessa
Dear Marc,
Thank you ever so much for responding to my letter...the problem
i'm having is that the fighting and threats of taking my kids away
from me is wearing me down terribly mentally..i can't handle it
nomore...I need out badly and he wont leave and i can't afford to
leave with the kids...
Thank you so much for your time you have taken out to help
me...sincerely,lori
Marc,
Just have time for a quick note: I used one of your couples comm.
techniques in attempting to have a therapeutic interaction with
a difficult client; a drug addicted, schizotypal personality disorder
with significant thought disorder/A.D.D.
Baby did it work! Yes the client was motivated, but without that
simple technique and humurous, good natured way you had demonstrated
in teaching the technique, which I included in my use of it in this
case-- nothing less or other would have worked.
Don't know if you're aware of the possible applications of your
techniques for therapists and counselors working with difficult
borderline, schizotypal, thought disorder, ADDHA, etc. clients.
Or maybe the techniques derive from this arena of patient/client
interaction interested in your thoughts.
And thanks.
P.S. the technique didn't work with my ex-wife, but it was great
with a client who it is almost impossible to have a conversation
with.
David
thanks i realy need them for the help i must have in order to remain
sane.
RDMX
Mr. Sadoff, thanks so
much for your communication tips. They are practical, entertaining
and helpful.
Tshai B.
Thank you very much
Wendy H.
PS: Thank you so very much
for making this counseling workbook option
averrable on the Internet it will save us tons of money on counseling
through
a counselor
My name is Kari H. and
I was hoping to get a user account for your web site.
Yesterday I ordered the "Coming together" manuals, and
I am really excited about reading them and working through them
with my Husband (who is actually going to participate! He likes
the fact that the manual was written by a man.)
Anyway, thanks so much for your time and also for the wonderful
web site. I`m sure it has saved and will save quiet a few relationships.
Kari H.
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN,
THIS WEBSITE IS VERY INTERESTING AND IMPORTANT TO MARRIED COUPLES.
PLEASE SEND ME THE FREE SAMPLES. MAY GOD ALWAYS BLESS YOU.
Lydia S.
Hi Marc,
I wonder if you realize what you have done by putting together your
Workbook. You have totally changed my personality and life basically
"overnight". The personality that I have been hating and
struggling with (and everybody around me) since I could remember.
....
To make the long story short,
as my life went on I started noticing that I had very hard time
gaining and maintaining relationships with other people. I was always
Mrs Right. My parents criticized this aspect of my personality all
the time but I refused to listen because that is all what they had
been doing - just criticizing me and telling me how bad person I
was. How could I have listen? They had never said sorry to me or
had never had any respect for my feelings and decisions.
When I met my husband I realized
he was the kind of person that was liked by everyone and getting
along with everybody, which meant, he was the total opposite of
me. Also, I could not believe how much respect his parents had for
his feelings even though he complained about it once in a while.
I was very excited to see how I would get along with him and, of
course, I failed again. Last week he told me many things about my
personality that were not very pleasant to hear but to be honest,
I was basically aware of most of them just did not know how to change
them. (And, of course, I would never admit it out loud. )
Your manual not only
helped me to understand what I was doing wrong but also
thought me how to fix it. I used to defend myself ALL THE TIME not
ever being able to admit that I could ever be wrong or I could make
a mistake. Actually, many times I new I was wrong but I just could
not say it out loud.
Just like ,my parents never
did. When I reached for help on the Internet last week I was desperate.
I was hoping to find some sort of a manual that would help me step
by step to understand what I was doing wrong and what "nice"
and "liked" people would do in certain situations.
Your Workbook is exactly what
I was looking for and I am so grateful to you for putting it together.
While reading it I often felt like you must have been in our house
when my husband and I were arguing. The statements like: You just
won't listen ! or Can you just stop interrupting me ! or Can you
just listen for once without saying anything? I have heard so many
times. But this is all OVER! Thanks to YOU!! You
have opened my eyes and initiated a HUGE change in my life. Perhaps
now I will show more respect to others by being a better listener
and by being a better communicator.
THANK YOU AGAIN SOOO MUCH FOR
TEACHING ME IN A FEW DAYS WHAT MY PARENTS HAVE NOT IN 37 YEARS!
Getting my relationship with the "outside" world ( but
mainly my marriage), on track is the GREATEST GIFT one could ever
give me. Last week I read your manual and this morning I am for
the first time in my life saying sorry to my husband for being late
without trying to come up with thousands of stupid excuses why it
had happened. I simply admitted that I should have done better job
planning my other activities and promised to do a better job in
the future.
After reading your manual all
of a sudden it seems all so simple. And, it feels like a release
from prison! It feels so GOOD! I was little bit disappointed by
my husbands reaction which was " Yeah right! ou are too selfish
and ignorant to care and change next time!" I still feel good.
That is all what I could do, right? Thank you thousand times for
all you do and Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!