Relationship
Phone Coaching

Marc Sadoff, MSW, BCD

While doing coaching over the telehone is not ideal, not everyone can fly out to a seminar in Los Angeles.  You can arrange a 3-way call with me within 5 days that may kick your relationship into a recovery mode.   One advantage is that in your confirmation email from me you will receive a free copy of the eBook of the manual and I'll have you doing some great exercises even before we end up speaking personally.

What is it worth to
solve the problem?

A large industrial manufacturer of electronic components uses an automated computerized assembly line system that is tremendously complex.  This assembly line accomplished 73 separate tasks and integrated 26 machines connected by conveyer belts.  There were thousands of circuits and switches.  The assembly line started to have problems in operation on Monday morning and by the evening the whole manufacturing division was shut down costing the company more than $100,000 a day in lost production.

The general manager gathered four in-house experts together that night.  They studied blueprints and experimented with one plan after another.   After all had failed to bring the line into operation they admitted defeat.  It was 2:30 a.m. and the desperate manager promised the experts a $500 bonus for a referral to anyone that could fix it.  All four agreed on the name of John Turner.   The manager called John at home at 3:00 a.m. and told him of the problem.  John yawned and said he'd fix it for &10,000.  The manager agreed and John showed up 20 minutes later.   John listened to the the way the problem developed and asked three more questions.   He said, "Uh-huh" to the manager and then walked directly over to the #36 circuit board, readjusted a fuse and flipped one switch.   The whole assembly line started humming and producing again.

John put out his hand for the money and the manager started grumbling about paying such a high price for so little time spent fixing the problem.   As John put the check into his pocket, he said, "You're not paying me for my time. You're paying me for my lifetime of experience which allows me to know exactly which switch to flip to solve your problem."

I've seen hundreds of couples for counseling or who were attending my seminar.  Some number of those couples eventually broke up or divorced.   If there was one that could have saved their relationship it would have been being able to effectively use the Time Out agreement.    It's amazing that, even when couples knew the agreement, neither partner used a Time Out.   Or sometimes, a Time Out was called but was ignored   The Time Out minimizes how intense or hostile arguments can become.   Afterwards, the Listening Exchange assures that each side will be heard.   Use your Phone Coaching with me to firm up your understanding of these crucial techniques.   Perhaps, exploring what beliefs or factors get in the way of using them in a timely way.

Intimate relationships between human beings are more complex than any assembly line.  From my experience facilitating domestic violence groups, time spent with individuals and couples in counseling and especially my personal experience in passionate conflicted relationships, I know which switches to flip.

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Two techniques that can save your relationship are the
Time Out and the Listening Exchange agreements.  Period.
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You will learn exactly the right skills needed to defuse escalating angry arguments.

You will always have a technique or agreement as a
plan of action, so you will never be powerless or
speechless, because you don't know what to do or say.

Go HERE to purchase  a 1/2 HOUR phone consultation.

Go HERE to purchase  a ONE HOUR phone consultation.

You will quickly know how to define the problem, or the skill, that is needed for your relationship to thrive again.

When you receive the confirmation email of your purchase of a half hour (minimum), or more, of phone time with me, then call me at 310 444-1951 or email me at Marc@RealHope.com

Ideally, both you and your partner are on the phone at the same time with me.  I will not extend our phone time unnecessarily.

Complimentary .pdf file AND one hour podcast summary with purchase of the one hour phone consultation.  Often, I will assign an exercise for you to do before we begin our official phone time.  The exercise will come from the eBook that I send you in the personal confirmation email you'll receive from me.

I will contact you by email or phone to arrange a mutually convenient time for our session.