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CONFLICT TO CARING WORKSHOP MANUAL
ABOUT THE SEMINAR WORKBOOK
Not sure yet?.....
scroll down this page to get a link
to download a portion
of the manual, including a great first exercise that sets the tone
for the rest of the book.
For the price of one dinner
out you can transform your relationship!
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The workbook instructs you how, what and when
to say just the right thing during disagreements. No more blaming.
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It's not just great information! The workbook
is full of exercises and practice examples of typical conflicts
that real couples often have.
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In the workshop couples receive two workbooks,
because each partner fills out many pages of exercises and self
test inventories.
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What sets our manual apart from other relationship
conflict books is that half of the manual is devoted to exercises
which educate, illustrate, model and transform the way conflict
is perceived. ORDER
MANUAL HERE
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that if you practice the skills and make the agreements with your
partner you will experience a shift for the better in your relationship.
If you don't find the manual of value to you we
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to download the entire 128 page homestudy course seminar manual
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how to:
- Communicate effectively, safely &
respectfully.
- Work as a team solving problems together..
- Know the difference between a complaint,
a criticsm and contempt.
- Express & resolve conflicts without
damaging closeness.
- Preserve and enhance love, commitment,
and friendship.
- Stop the misunderstandings which cause
aggressive arguing and defending.
- Eliminate the frustrations caused by
male & female communication differences.
- Use the 4 step problem solving method.
Solve problems instead of finding blame.
- Stop the bickering and hear each other!
- Make sure both sides are heard.
- Decide if you want to stay together.
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Discover:
- The most powerful 3-step technique for
listening to someone else's anger.
- How to express your own anger in a way
which does not make the situation worse.
- How to turn anger & disappointment
with someones' behavior into a process for increasing intimacy
& understanding.
- How to keep arguments from getting out
of control.
- The four sentences that can bring people
together.
- Two phrases that show "I respect your
feelings and it's safe to talk to me."
- The three questions to ask yourself, which
will help you decide if you should stay in your current
relationship; or if you should leave.
- That change is possible! And that change
can 'begin with me.'
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- I want to know if I make you feel bad,
or scared.
- I'll listen to you without interrupting
if you ask.
- I'll spend 15 minutes a week with you
to talk safely about issues we might have.
- I'll let you leave the room, if you feel
intimidated.
- I'll let you define if you feel intimidated
by how I speak to you.
- And I'll get some help if I can't follow
these commitments (ie. "I'm out of my own control.")
- ORDER
MANUAL HERE
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You'll get a confirmation email that contains
a link to our where you can download a 31 page section of
the workshop manual. It includes a really great exercise to
get couples to be willing to accept a part of
the responsibility for problems. AND it includes,
the full section on 'Stop Destructive Arguing Using Time Outs."
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Table of
Contents
- Commitments & Values- What's more
important...Pride or your partner?
- Agreement To Spend Weekly Time Together
To Talk.
- Listening Exchange- It's about taking
turns!
- Safety then Understanding the Other
then Expressing My P.O.V.
- Obstacles to Listening...What I Can Improve
On?
- Stop Destructive Arguing Using Time Outs.
- Handling Contempt, Rejection & Hostility-
It's not 'what you said' it's the 'way you said
it.'
- Respect Agreement- "I do not want to see
myself making you feel badly."
- What I'll Do If I Cannot Reasonably Keep
My Agreements
- Listening to the Anger of Others - First
Pants then Shoes
- Expressing Anger- Is This About Me...Or
Is This About You?
- Practice Vignette Examples
- Personal Inventory - Childhood Influences
on Current Conflicts.
- Self Tests- Medical and Psychological
Issues that Affect Conflict.
- Physical, Psychological and Emotional
Violence.
- Should I Stay...or Should I Leave the
Relationship?
- Recommended Readings.
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WHAT'S
IN THE WORKBOOK?
This workbook contains information and exercises
that that will transform the way you handle conflict with your partner.
There are 5 commitments that each partner makes out loud to the
other. They are:
- To reserve time each week for talks about each
person's concerns about the relationship.
- To listen to your partner without interrupting.
- To leave the room when arguing escalates, by
taking a time out.
- To not allow intimidation, contempt and rejection
to be a part of our dialogue. That means I won't tolerate intimid-
ation by myself, or by my partner.
- To get further help, if I cannot reasonably
follow through with these basic commitments. ORDER
MANUAL HERE
The agreements interlock with each
other in a way that ensures that just about every situation of conflict
can be handled.
What
To Do When There Is Physical Violence, Intimidation Or Emotional
Abuse
While Time Outs
are an important part of handling abusive relationships; these methods
are no replacement for treatment when physical
abuse is present in a relationship. Do not attempt couples
counseling when intimidating or violent behavior is occuring.
Couples counseling creates the illusion that the problem is a communication
or couples problem.
Whenever, there
is violence and abuse, the violent
one must FIRST get treatment for his or her problem of not controlling
the violence/abuse. The one who is physically
violent or emotionally abusive must seek help for his or her individual
problem of control. Group treatment by trained violence professionals
is most recommended. Standard psychotherapy, by therapists not trained
in anger management or violence may even be counterproductive.
Please refer to the 800
799-SAFE violence hotline telephone number
or contact a women's shelter in your area for guidance and support.
The best place
to find referrals for therapists with experience in treating abuse
is the municipal court, probation or city attorney. They will often
have a list of county approved programs and therapists. Shop around
and speak with a few therapists before you decide.
Worksheets
- Listening Non-Defensively to Someone Who is
Angry With You
- Expressing feelings of sadness, hurt, frustration
and anger in a constructive way!
- My Personal Inventory - What is it about my
personal history that may contribute to our conflict? What can
I do about it? Self tests for addictions, violence, psychological
disorders.
- My Obstacles To Good Communication
- Knowing the Difference Between Expressing Anger
vs Hostility
- Knowing My Time Out Cues
- Identifying and challenging 'Abandoning and
rejecting language.'
- Should I Stay In This Relationship? - A checklist
of things to consider before ending your relationship. What to
do about fear or guilt about leaving. Three questions to ask yourself
that will help you decide if you should leave.
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you saying?: |
Then
we say: |
| What if it doesn't cover
my type of relationship? |
If
it doesn't help, then get your money back. |
| Will I know if my partner will try it? |
You
won't know until you show it to him/her. If you don't
ask the answer is always "No." |
| We've tried other books and seminars. |
How
important is your relationship? |
| We've already been to therapy. |
This
is not therapy. It's skill building. |
| How can such an inexpensive
approach work? |
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you say that to your auto mechanic? |
These are affordable, effective
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anger, disagreements, fights and arguments. ORDER
MANUAL HERE
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