Handling Conflict With Confidence Home Study Course - Weekend Seminar
Personal & Marital Counseling with
Marc Sadoff, MSW, BCD in Los Angeles

Helping frustrating relationships get better &
good ones To become GREAT!

Office Phone #- 310 444-1951
Map to office/seminar go HERE.
Email Marc at Marc@RealHope.com

Most marriages and relationships can benefit by learning better communication skills.   Some couples are doing fine but could use a few tips on how to express themselves better.   Other couples, with higher levels of conflict, need all the tools in the course.

It's very hard for people to hear complaints by their partner, without quickly explaining or defending themselves.  When people get defensive their ears close to the concerns of their partner.   This makes the partner more angry and they get louder or interrupt.   Then, the defensive person feels justified in being even more defensive.  Then, their partner feels even more justified in more aggressively interrogating the defensive one.

Can This RealHope Web Site Help Us?

• We love each other 95% of the time.   It's the other 5% that is hard to live with.
• Little conflicts can turn into very big fights for us.
• We are not able to stop arguing, even when it gets real bad.
• The only time we really talk about our relationship is when we're fighting.
• We are not good at expressing angry, hurt, & sad  feelings.
• We don't understand the difference between expressing anger vs hostility.
• We can stop by walking away, but we don't know what to say when we get together again.
• It's hard for us to take turns when we're angry.
• We have an uncomfortable distance and silence after a conflict that can last for days.

Monthly Weekend Los Angeles
Couples Seminar June 29th & 30th Info HERE

Communication skills that start by first STOPPING any hostility or disrespectful verbal abuse before more damage is done.  Then, to know exactly what to do & say when you reconnect.  Relationship advice and Pre-Marital Course that prevents problems before they grow into large issues.

Communication Skills Tips
Read a sample of the methods in the manual.

Click HERE for sample of the seminar manual.

  For the price of a dinner out, you can bring more respect, peace & passion to your relationships... at home or at work. 
    Real Hope is when there is evidence that change is happening.   Toxic Hope is when you are harmed by continuing to believe that things will change when there is no evidence that it is.   The workbook & workshop helps you get the evidence either way.
  No more blaming, or contempt.  Stop arguments on a dime!   Anger management techniques taught by professionals.
  Clear guidelines for conflict.  Relationship advice, anger management & communication skills exercises that you will have practiced so many times that it becomes second nature to listen responsively and speak respectfully to each other.
Learn more about the 'Handling Conflict With Confidence' manual HERE.

Some Benefits Of RealHope.com's Home Study Manual Or Workshop

    Men can feel appreciated, instead of criticized by their wives.  Learn the secret of how to listen ONCE to her feelings about being upset by you.  Learn a way to stop those long, frustrating & unproductive 'relationship talks' when you want to.
    Women can finally have a man listen all the way through an emotional dialogue, without interrupting.
And get this.....WITHOUT HIS GETTING DEFENSIVE... no, really it works that way!
    Picture going a month without having any painful disagreements?
    Imagine hearing evidence that your partner really cares about what you want or feel?   And, that he, or she, takes some responsibility for a part of the problem?
    Maybe you just want to know if the relationship, or marriage, you are in now is likely to improve.  To know that you've given it your BEST TRY and given him,or her, the most simple ways to show progress and improvement.

Learn How To Stop Arguing
Now Using Conflict Skills
Training From RealHope.com

Men like the 'Rules & Tools' in the course.   Women just like the feeling of being heard!

Everyone loves the idea that they now have the power to stop conflict cold with a structure of how to recononect after a big quarrel.

Many couples, who take my seminar or use the 10 Week Home Study Course, stop arguing and do not need therapy!

Do you have
Real Hope
OR
Toxic Hope
that the future
will be better?

Real Hope means that there is real measureable evidence that the marriage or relationship IS changing.    The 'Handling Conflict With Confidence' seminar, or Home Study Course, will give you the means to measure this.  Would you like to know with more certainty, within a month or so, if your relationship has Real Hope for the future ?

Toxic Hope which means that while continuing to hope for change there is damage being done to yourself, your children or your marriage.   For instance, you are in Toxic Hope when your partner refuses to see any of his, or her, part in the problems within the marriage; and will not seek help.   Or, when one partner is an alcoholic, addict, depressed or has some other mental health disorder and refuses to seek treatment; or even to see how these disorders may affect their relationship.  
   Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (aka PTSD) can strongly influence a relationship as well.   Let's say one partner has a history of being severely abused by his parents.   Now, in his current relationship, he reacts very aggressively to his all of wife's complaints about him; and yet he refuses to get help.   In many of these cases, the partner abused as a child never even makes the connection between the abuse and the overreaction to normal complaints made with relationships.  The same goes for when you are unwilling to take some responsibility for your part in the problems.
   Furthermore, if you, or your partner, will not state that a desire exists to make any changes there is not much chance for for the relationship to change or of being different.   The only way to change how you experience the relationship may lie in your ability to accept your partner as is. Although, sometimes a spiritual or accepting and forgiving approach can still expose you to Toxic Hope if you are in denial of your own pain or frustration.

Marc Sadoff, MSW, BCD-  
CA Lic.# 11725

Email me at- Marc@RealHope.com

I have a practice of private individual therapy and couples sessions.  Click my picture or name for more info.  I was trained by the creators of PREP marriage seminars in 1997.  Their practical educational approach to helping couples through educational seminars impressed me.   I was featured in TIME Magazine    as a PREP seminar leader in their Jan. 19, 2004 special on innovative educational marriage therapy.   My program is also influenced by the work or Dr. Gottman, Dr. Harville Hendrix, John Bradshaw, Dr. Daniel Siegel, my own clinical and personal experiences and some principles of 12 step recovery progams.

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RealHope Couples Communication Skills Services & Products

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Weekend CouplesSeminar Info

I conduct a Weekend Couples Seminar in West Los Angeles.   They are usually on the first Saturday of each month.  Most couples that take my Weekend Workshop do not need any more professional help.   Learn more about the 'Handling Conflict With Confidence' couples communication skills workshop HERE.

---> Private Individual & Marriage Therapy With Marc

Private West Los Angeles office visits (Corinth Garden courtyard above) for couples or individual therapy. Most insurance taken. Solution focused and results oriented treatment that often begins with communication skills education.

---> Phone Or Skype Relationship Coaching With Marc    

Skype or telephone sessions for marriage and couples coaching is arranged ahead of time.