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Handling Conflict With Confidence Course, Seminar, Counseling & Book

Helping frustrating relationships get better & good ones To become GREAT!

Office Phone #- 310 444-1951
Map to office/seminar go HERE.

Everyone can benefit by learning better communication skills.   Some couples are doing fine but could use a few tips on how to express themselves better.   Other couples, with higher levels of conflict, need all the tools in the course.   Defensiveness is the root of most high conflict in marriages and relationships. It's very hard for people to hear complaints by their partner, without quickly explaining or defending themselves.  When people get defensive their ears close to the concerns of their partner.   This makes the partner more angry and they get louder or interrupt.   Then, the defensive person feels justified in being even more defensive.  Then, their partner feels even more justified in more aggressively interrogating the defensive one.

Can This RealHope Web Site Help Us?

  • We love each other 95% of the time.   It's the other 5% that is hard to live with.
  • Little conflicts can turn into very big fights for us.
  • We are not able to stop arguing, even when it gets real bad.
  • The only time we really talk about our relationship is when we're fighting.
  • We are not good at expressing angry, hurt, & sad  feelings.
  • We don't understand the difference between expressing anger vs hostility.
  • We can stop by walking away, but we don't know what to say when we get together again.
  • It's hard for us to take turns when we're angry.
  • We have an uncomfortable distance and silence after a conflict that can last for days.

One Day Los Angeles
Couples Seminar HERE

Communication skills that start by first STOPPING any hostility or disrespectful verbal abuse before more damage is done.  Then, to know exactly what to do & say when you reconnect.  Relationship advice and Pre-Marital Course that prevents problems before they grow into large issues.

Communication Skills Tips
Read a sample of the methods in the manual.

Click HERE for sample of the seminar manual.

 communication skills dot For the price of a dinner out, you can bring more respect, peace & passion to your relationships... at home or at work. 
  communication skills dot  Real Hope is when there is evidence that change is happening.   Toxic Hope is when you are harmed by continuing to believe that things will change when there is no evidence that it is.   The workbook & workshop helps you get the evidence either way.
  communication skills dot No more blaming, or contempt.  Stop arguments on a dime!   Anger management techniques taught by professionals.
  communication skills dot Clear guidelines for conflict.  Relationship advice, anger management & communication skills exercises that you will have practiced so many times that it becomes second nature to listen responsively and speak respectfully to each other.
Learn more about the 'Handling Conflict With Confidence' manual HERE.

Some Benefits Of RealHope.com's Home Study Manual Or Workshop

  communication skills dot  Men can feel appreciated, instead of criticized by their wives.  Learn the secret of how to listen ONCE to her feelings about being upset by you.  Learn a way to stop those long, frustrating & unproductive 'relationship talks' when you want to.
  communication skills dot  Women can finally have a man listen all the way through an emotional dialogue, without interrupting.
And get this.....WITHOUT HIS GETTING DEFENSIVE... no, really it works that way!
  communication skills dot  Picture going a month without having any painful disagreements?
  communication skills dot  Imagine hearing evidence that your partner really cares about what you want or feel?   And, that he, or she, takes some responsibility for a part of the problem?
  communication skills dot  Maybe you just want to know if the relationship, or marriage, you are in now is likely to improve.  To know that you've given it your BEST TRY and given him,or her, the most simple ways to show progress and improvement.

Learn How To Stop Arguing
Now Using Conflict Skills
Training From RealHope.com


Men like the 'Rules & Tools in the course.   Women just like the feeling of being heard!

Everyone loves the idea that they now have the power to stop conflict cold with a structure of how to recononect after a big quarrel.

Half of the couples who take this course learn to stop arguing & do not need therapy!

Time Relationship Workshop Magazine

Do you have-
Real Hope
OR
Toxic Hope

that the future
will be better?

Real Hope means that there is real measureable evidence that the marriage or relationship IS changing.    The Handling Conflict With Confidence program will give you the means to measure this.  Would you like to know with more certainty, within a month, if your relationship can change for the better?

Toxic Hope which means that while continuing to hope for change there is damage being done to yourself, your children or your marriage.   For instance, you are in Toxic Hope when your partner refuses to see any of his, or her, part in the problems within the marriage; and will not seek help.   Or, when one partner is an alcoholic, addict, depressed or has some other mental health disorder and refuses to seek treatment; or even to see how these disorders may affect their relationship.  
   Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (aka PTSD) can strongly influence a relationship as well.   Let's say one partner has a history of being severely abused by his parents.   Now, in his current relationship, he reacts very aggressively to his all of wife's complaints about him; and yet he refuses to get help.   In many of these cases, the partner abused as a child never even makes the connection between the abuse and the overreaction to normal complaints made with relationships.  The same goes for when you are unwilling to take some responsibility for your part in the problems.
   Furthermore, if you, or your partner, will not state that a desire exists to make any changes there is not much chance for for the relationship to change or of being different.   The only way to change how you experience the relationship may lie in your ability to accept your partner as is. Although, sometimes a spiritual or accepting and forgiving approach can still expose you to Toxic Hope if you are in denial of your own pain or frustration.

Marc

Marc Sadoff, MSW, BCD-  
CA Lic.# 11725

Email me at- Marc@RealHope.com

I have a practice of private individual therapy and couples sessions.  Click my picture or name for more info.  I was trained by the creators of PREP marriage seminars in 1997.  Their practical educational approach to helping couples through educational seminars impressed me.   I was featured in TIME Magazine    as a PREP seminar leader in their Jan. 19, 2004 special on innovative educational marriage therapy.   My program is also influenced by the work or Dr. Gottman, Dr. Harville Hendrix, John Bradshaw, Dr. Daniel Siegel, my own clinical and personal experiences and some principles of 12 step recovery progams.

A guiding principle of my work is acceptance.   Acceptance of a variety of truths.   Long ago, when email was first making it's appearance, I created a quote that I could put as a tag line in my email signature. It was- "I'll be content when, I cease saying, 'I'll be content when.... '"

C'mon Now... Who Doesn't Want
Answers To These Questions?

  •   We Get So Out Of Control & Can't Stop
  •   How Can I Make Her Stop Criticizing!
  •   Newlyweds Who Want To Nip It Now
  •   I Leave The Room & Still Get Followed
  •  We Don't Fight Much But Want To Improve
  •   How Can I Deal With His Defensiveness?
  •   I Never Seem To Get A Chance To Talk.
  •   What Do I Do When He's Mean?
  •   Can I Express Anger Without Hostility?
  •   What If We Can't Do This?
  •   What Is Toxic Hope & Real Hope?
  •   It's All His/Her Fault
  •   How Can I Know If I Should Stay Or Go?
  •   What if there is Physical Violence?

Products & Services

72 Minute Podcast - Home Study Course Summary

Downloadable eBook - Contains The Full Course

Combo Podcast + Book PDF - Get Both!

Homestudy Hardcopy Of The Course Book

Handling Conflict With Confidence Seminar

Private Individual & Marriage Therapy

I conduct a One Day Couples Seminar in West Los Angeles.  They are usually on the first Saturday of each month.  Most couples that take my One Day Workshop do not need any more professional help.  Learn more about the monthly Los Angeles Couples Seminars HERE.

Email Testimonial From A Couple
Who Attended The Couples Workshop

Dear Marc,

You may consider this an anonymous testimonial.  We came to your seminar with many difficulties and near violent anger. Definitely emotionally violent.   After taking your course we learned and practice many of the techniques and principles you taught in the seminar we attended last year.

It not only saved our relationship but has improved our individual lives.  For months and months we had all your rules taped to our walls (with 3M temporary double sided removable pad tabs) in the bathroom above the sinks, on the fridge and in my office and in the utility room.  They kept reminding us of the proper ways to handle conflict and it has curtailed the damaging effects of emotional escalation that really ruined any chance to a loving peaceful life.  Although we both are far from where we'd like to be, we are thousands of miles ahead of the painful place we were before attending your course.

Spending the time with you and other couples helped us see that we were not alone and encouraged us to move through this awful phase of our relationship to a happier more satisfying relationship.  We were both motivated to learn and sincere when we came.   We participated genuinely and we received great rewards then and now.  I believe that we have integrated your techniques into our lives to our benefit.

Thank God for your life's work and course that has helped us grow and create a relationship that is so much more satisfying and pleasant. We appreciate your part in our lives.
We were married September 27th 2002!
Bill & Lori   - More Testimonials HERE.

Learn more about the monthly Los Angeles One Day Couples Seminar HERE. or register now.-

Reserve your seats in the next
'Handling Conflict With Confidence'
Los Angeles Seminar
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shine magazinecosmopolitan magazine I've been written up in several magazines in addition to the Time Magazine article shown above I was written up in Shine Magazine in Great Britain, in Cosmopolitan Magazine in March of 1994 in an article written by Linden Gross called, "Facing up to the Dreadful Dangers of Denial."

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